Giving advice to your 15 year old cousin when you are almost 10 years older can be slightly awkward. You can add cultural differences + non opposite-sex relations of any sort (my boy cousin) to mix..

BUT. I think all boys want/need female perspective, and you can’t really bring it up with your mom (that’s awkward, not to mention biased when it comes to their children). 

Growing up, I think the smaller the age gap..the more rivarly there is. My sister and I are four years apart, but I would never see her as my rival. She is so much younger than me, and we have different talents/skills/interests/personalities. You can’t really compare someone when you aren’t even playing the same game.

My cousin and his brother are exactly 1 year and 2 months apart. If I compared them to a Korean drama, his brother would be the ideal lead man and my cousin would be the supporting second lead.

It was slightly amusing ‘cause he mentioned that he hated white day, because his brother would come home looking like Ghirardelli himself came and threw gifts at him..while he himself would come empty handed.

Korea is funny…because even at such a young age, girls are taught what to admire/like/find attractive. However…women everywhere/anywhere are flexible…they know what to appreciate when they see it.

I told my cousin he’s not bad looking (he’s not), he’s tall, and that you can always change your fate.

I guess it was strange hearing it from an outside perspective. I can’t imagine any of our family members telling him this (Dad is oblivious, Mom passed away, Brother mentioned above). My grandma isn’t the compliment giving type, and there’s really nobody else.

But he’s still young, Korea is vain, and lots of change can occur if you want it badly enough.

I just really hopes he believes in it and himself.